I thought I was pretty lucky that I didn’t really experience the terrible 2’s or threenager with Cakes but man am I making up for it now. I didn’t really know it had a name until I was reading up on some of my favorite blogs and saw that there is indeed a name for what we are going through with our sweet sweet 4 year old Cakes. FOURNADO! Go ahead grab a cocktail, you’re gonna need it!
The Fournados consist of:
- More “why’s” than any person is equipped to answer. This girl why’s us into circles. Mommy/Daddy why are my shoes blue? Because they only came in blue. Why did they only make blue? Because blue is their favorite color. Why is blue their favorite color? I don’t know Cakes, why is yellow your favorite color. Uh because it’s my favorite color. Exactly Cakes. But why? *which is usually followed by us looking to the other for help* We’ve learned to use the art of distraction or reverse why’s to deal with the endless slew of why’s. What’s a reverse why? When you’ve run out of creative answers and so you ask them why instead. She usually gets annoyed and changes the subject or walks out. Win for the parents!
- Expansive/Expressive vocabulary. Sometimes I forget that I’m speaking to a four year old. It seems as though it started almost exactly on her 4th birthday when she started thanking us for her birthday “decorations” , telling us which friend has “annoyed” her at school and so she uses her “imagination” and plays alone or the best when she started closing the door while going potty because she needs “privacy please”. Most times we’re stunned and look at each other in disbelief at how she knows how to use her big words in the correct context with the appropriate expressions and emphasis. I love every minute of it, it confirms that our baby is a genius (lol).
- Teenage Angst. This one is a killer. It’s like all of a sudden Cakes feels deeply and quickly. She cries because she loves us then turns around and has the biggest belly laugh at something on tv. Before we can even prepare to deal with one emotion she’s on to the next. We haven’t really figured out what to do with this yet so we kind of just let her go through it and offer a hug, for now that does the trick.
- Combativeness. I don’t know if it can really be accredited to fournado or if she just gets in honest from her daddy but sometimes if you let her you’ll get sucked into major back and forth with this little lady and again you forget she’s only 4. “Wrong and Strong” is a word constantly used to describe Cakes. She’ll be dead wrong and argue you down anyway. Maybe it’s the makings of a future lawyer but most of the time we just tap out because she will wear you down.
Trying at times absolutely but I must say it is a pleasure seeing Cakes’ growing into such a little character. Although if I’m being completely honest more often than not I just grab my flask and hide in the bathroom for a long as I can before she comes barging in. Judge if you must!
What are some other Fournado traits you’ve dealt with/are dealing with and how do you cope.